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How to get paid doing what you Love - with Human Design insights | Episode 178

• Yvette Mayer • Season 3 • Episode 178

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Hi all, in this episode I'm diving into a topic close to my heart and that's something I have strived so much to excel at, ie, getting paid to do what I love and what makes me #litupandliberated - true generator style! Which is my definition of abundance.

Now, regardless of your Human design type, you do realize that you got into business and became entrepreneurs because you wanted to do the work that;
you love doing..
that is fulfilling..
that has a positive impact on others..
and to have a sense of freedom to live your life the way you want to live it -

..which means it requires us to be paid for doing that work. And that is the definition of true abundance for most of us.

And today, we are exploring this from the lens of Human Design gate 14 (affluence) which is transiting right now as I record this. I interpret this energy for marketing as energy of monetizing our gifts and skills.

We are exploring deeper topics like:

  • Overcoming self-compromise - which is the shadow frequency of gate 14
  • Breaking patterns of people-pleasing and self-sabotage (true personal story)
  • Attracting abundance through personal alignment yet not masking internal blocks  behind it

And whether you have Gate 14 defined in your chart or not, it's a major theme and arch-experience for all personal and business success.

Now that's not all, given the powerful selling season in the HD transits, I'm also bringing upcoming gates that are supportive for selling and personal power:

  • Gate 14 (Current): Abundant energy of monetizing your gifts
  • Gate 34 (Upcoming tranist): Gate of Power, personal confidence & empowering others to bring transformation
  • Gate 9 (transits around Black Friday): About focusing on intentional, precise information to nail your offers or sales strategy + removing the resistance around selling your offers

All with real-time examples from my business aka BTS juicy stuff!

So tune in to get all the bits and if you have any queries or aha's to share, drop into my IG DMs, I will be responding to you all personally.


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Hi, hi, welcome to the Human Design for Marketing podcast.

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I'm your host, yvette Mayer, and this show's for you if you're done with cookie cutter marketing and ready to build your personal brand in alignment with who you really are. I'm a marketing expert, human design nerd and intuitive business coach who's helped hundreds of women just like you to elevate their frequency and activate their most magnetic personal brand. Each week, we'll dive into practical tips, interviews, conversations and more to help you create an aligned business, a positive contribution and, of course, an abundant life. Let's dive in. Hello and welcome back to the Human Design for Marketing podcast with your host, yvette Mayer. Hi, that is me, and I am thrilled to be back in your ears with a juicy episode which headline is all about you getting paid to do the work you love.

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As I record this, we are moving through gate 14 in the solar transit, and this is a gate that has so much wisdom inside of it. It's also a gate that I have spent a lot of time contemplating because I happen to have it in my design, mars, which, in the gene keys, is an extremely important position. So I'm going to talk a bit about that as we move through this, but, to start with, it does not matter whether or not you have the 14 somewhere in your body graph, because the insight in this gate and the opportunity for you, I believe, is unanimous and, of course, because we're moving through this in the transits right now, this energy is around you. But it goes deeper than that, I think, because look, I'm going to say this about all gates there is so much personal development and reflection to be had in every single gate when you really get into the low and the high frequency. I love working with the gene keys for this, because all the gates are in all of us. It's just whether they were activated at our time of birth. How consistent they are, right. So there's lessons in every gate. I want you to really understand that there's not only lessons in the defined gates that you have and in fact you have to learn more about the things that aren't consistent for you in a lot of ways. So important, important, important, important. So the lessons of gate 14.

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Well, this gate is known in human design, the traditional human design, as the gate richer around what this true energetic frequency is about, which is more around abundance and bounteousness. So the name of the I Ching gate is the gate of affluence, or the I Ching of affluence, of affluence, and in the gene keys it is well the low frequency is compromise, the high frequency is competency and the civic state is bounteousness. All of this adds up to this being what is considered to be one of the money gates that it has an energy of monetisation around it. But, as with all things in this system, it comes from a very beautiful place, which is that this genuine truth that when you really find your unique brilliance in the work that you do and you put your entire beingness into that, that you will become more abundant. It's like this is how we get paid to do what we love when we're really working with this. But our very humanness is our biggest block. I did a whole post on this, I think, on social media and in my email last week that it's not the external that blocks us from having the abundance of success that we desire and being paid for doing what we love. It's our internal system and particularly our unconscious blocks and our beliefs that we develop so young in life that we're not always that aware of until we've done a lot of personal development work, which I know this community has done, and still, there is so much more to learn when you are on this incredible, incredible path of working with your design and learning through the human design and sister modalities, to get to know yourself better and particularly go into those places where maybe you haven't had awareness they are sitting in a less conscious part of your system and be able to bring that into your awareness for not just your own benefit but for the benefit of those around us. Because I think we can all agree that we get into business, we become entrepreneurs because we want to do work that we love to do, that is fulfilling, that has a positive impact on others, and to have a sense of freedom to live our life the way we want to live it, which means it requires us to be paid for doing that work. Okay, so that's the framework for the 14.

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And my reasoning for bringing it through to you today is because I want you to spend some time thinking about this in your own world and how you see this working for you and also blocking you at times. So I am going to go a bit deeper in through the gene keys to get into my experience with the GATE14. And I think in telling this story you're going to see a lot of yourself, of yourself. So when I first started studying learning from the gene keys, I started. There's three different sequences in the gene keys which are all worth you going through. I started with the prosperity sequence, which I have heard a lot of people do, even though it's kind of the third one, because it's like, okay, how can I learn about how I'm designed to be prosperous through this? And we're in a hurry, right, we want to hurry up and have the money so we can have the freedom and live life the way we want to live it.

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So I started there and this is when I discovered that there's a key spot in our design, in our body graph, that represents our vocation, so what we're actually here to do for work, or the energy we're here to do this work in, to set us up to be paid abundantly, and it also, in particular, holds our core wound. So the biggest thing that we internally are going to experience as a block and it is an unconscious block because it's sitting on the design side of your body graph. So quick note in case you're newer to human design the gates that are activated that you see on the right-hand side of your body graph. These are your conscious gates. Okay, so these are the ones that you're like. Yes, I feel that I see that that is so true for me. But the deeper, less conscious programming that we run is on the other side. It's on the design side. So our core wound around prosperity is sitting on our design side and it is in your design, mars. So go and check this out if you don't know what's sitting there, so you know what that looks like for you and later, after listening to this episode, go and contemplate this if you haven't done this work before. So for me, I have the 14. And therefore, like one of the things that I did to start to really integrate this knowledge is, I listened to this gene key. I was actually driving between where I live on the south coast of New South Wales, which is about two and a bit hours south of Sydney. I was driving between the south coast and Sydney, which I do a lot because my family are all in Sydney, and it was such a profound moment listening to this core wound because I saw myself so deeply in this block, so I shared this already.

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But what is called my greatest core wound, or my biggest block, is also known as the shadow of this gate, which is compromise. Now, that word alone I think we can all identify with, but the more I listen to Richard explain how this shows up, I could just identify with it so powerfully. But you may identify with what I've got to say anyway, even if you don't have the 14. Identify with what I've got to say anyway, even if you don't have the 14. So how this shows up compromising yourself shows up when you people please, when you say yes to things that are a hard no because you want to be liked or you want to be loved. It shows up when you don't put boundaries in place that protect you from getting out of alignment. And again, you generally do that because you want to be loved or liked. And then probably the one that I was like ooh, I wasn't so aware of the most was in more of the self-sabotage around not holding yourself to your own high standards. Okay.

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So this is an area that I have to do a lot of work on. Where I'm, the thing that I know is best for me and for my highest good and highest potential is often harder and it's uncomfortable and it doesn't satisfy my need for instant gratification. This can show up in all sorts of ways, but it compromises my frequency and my ability to do the work that I love in the frequency I need to be in to have the abundance right. So this can look like and I'm afraid to say this shows up to this day, even though I've done so much work on this. This can look like I know that that I'm doing a long drive and that I have to get up early and for me to be safe and wide awake on the road, the most important thing for me is to get a high quality sleep and then compromise myself or sabotage myself by eating chocolate late at night or watching Netflix until well past the hour that I have committed to myself that I will go to bed right. So this is eroding my personal frequency and my ability to show up and be my best self. So I've given you an example based on driving, but you can see how this would affect my work as well, because when I'm overtired, I'm not thinking as logically, I am not expressing myself as clearly, I'm not able to jump onto a podcast and be my most magnetic self and share in a way that's so eloquent that you get it, and it's super sharp, especially with all my open space. So I am sabotaging myself with these behaviors. This all lives in the low frequency of gate 14, and I think it lives some of what I've said.

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No matter what your chart looks like, you will identify with this as a business owner, whether it's the people pleasing or the boundaries, or the self-sabotage or one of other, a number of ways compromising yourself shows up. This is the stuff, the behavioral components of you, that is actually preventing you from doing what is for your highest good and also for the benefit of others, which is being in your most competent place. Competency you will be far more competent at showing up and doing the work you love and attracting abundance when you are not compromising yourself right. This is the energy that we're in right now. So you may have experienced this this week. You may have felt yourself in this low frequency. You may have acted out of alignment with the way that is most supportive for you to express yourself, expand yourself and monetize your magic, whereas in the high frequency you are leading yourself, you are trusting in your competency in the work that you're doing.

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Competency in the work that you're doing and you're far more magnetic and able to attract opportunities, clients, people wanting to collaborate with you, whatever that looks like. That's important for your growth. When you're being self-led, you're not compromising yourself yourself and you are in a place of your highest competency, then the floodgates are open for you. This is what we want for you. This is such important work. Now, another reason I wanted to bring this to you this week is and I sent an email if you're on my email list, you probably have received this this week that we are in a run of gates that are very supportive for selling or they're very powerful. They're very personally powerful. So the 14 that we're in right now is an abundant energy. It is when you are not compromising yourself and doing the work you love and showing up for yourself that you are going to attract the success that you desire. That's going to show up materially for you.

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Then we move into the 34. Now this gate is. It is the gate of power, but it's really about this power over force. So it's not about chasing and trying. It's about personal power. It is about trusting in your brilliance, and you can see again how this is a very magnetic energy or a very attractive energy to potential clients, existing clients that may want to take on more or longer contracts with you. Whatever that looks like in your business, it's when you're in your most high frequency, when you're at your most powerful and you're feeling that level of competency and confidence that you will be more attractive. Okay, so this is the energy we're moving into in a couple of days. Right now we're in line. As I record this, we're in line five. So I'm showing some leadership in my gate 14 by recording this. So in two days it's probably tomorrow for you if you're listening to this when I release it we will be in the 34.

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Okay, so this is another energy to contemplate around the frequency for you to hold yourself in to make more sales, and then, as we move into Black Friday which is a week from when you're listening to this or thereabouts, it's the last Friday in November we come into gate nine. So this is slightly different, but it still has really important insight around being in an abundant energy for selling, because it's the gate of small details. It's really about the correct and intentional information or focus to create the magic in your world. So this pertains to selling and marketing in terms of. So the way that you position yourself during this frequency is to give the right details, to get your potential clients, your audience, audience to put their attention on exactly the right information for them to make decisions that go in your favor, right?

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So I wanted to bring this to you both to really explore Gate 14, but to also highlight to you that we are in amazing energy for you to make money right now, but for some of you, you're going to be listening to this and you're going to be in compromise. You are going to be telling yourself that, for any number of reasons, you're not going to participate in buying or selling during Black Friday or one or the other. Because let's get into all your shadows, right, let's get into. Maybe you don't want to be disappointed if it doesn't work self-sabotage. Maybe you feel from an ego perspective, it's going to devalue your work when actually that's stopping you from helping more people self-sabotage, let's get into. You don't want to drop the price of certain things because you've sold them to existing clients at higher price points and they might get upset with you. People-pleasing, okay.

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So if you're listening to this and you're unsure, or you're, you've been thinking this isn't, this isn't for me, it's out of alignment. We can hide behind alignment when it's masking blocks, true story, and I wanted to invite you to really explore this in yourself, and it's totally fine if you do this exploration and you're like no, I'm clean, my energy is in alignment. There's a X, y, z, strategic or otherwise reason why this is not, for me, all good. However, from where I sit and appreciating my own design and my understanding of the energies we're in and what I'm here to do, which is actually to help you become more abundant in your business by aligning with your design and expanding your frequency so that you have more success, make a bigger impact. It's about positively contributing in the world, but also you are personally rewarded for that. That is what I'm here for. That is what I'm here for, so for me to be of service to you. I thought this was such an amazingly potent conversation to have with you, to get you really deep into considering, like, what is going on that is stopping you from being visible, from showing up and making offers, and how is that compromising, preventing you from doing the work you love and getting really paid well for it?

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Okay, now, before I go, as I prepped for this episode, I read my blog post on the gate 14. I love going back over things like this and just to refresh all of the own kind of stories that I've told myself and the journeys I've been on. And I told this story, which I'm going to repeat now. So back in my mid-20s, early 20s, I was in a long-term relationship. I'd been in this relationship for four years and it was actually the most committed relationship of my entire life, and I'm in my 50s, so this is saying a lot, right, I was madly in love and it was a very mutual, strong connection, almost obsessive on both sides, and I thought that this was the person that I was going to marry.

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I really did, and I, at the same time, had stepped onto the career level in my marketing work. I was working in an advertising agency a really cool advertising agency actually and I was flying Like, even though I was in my early 20s, I had already been made what was called back then a group head was called back then a group head. So I had a team and I was the lead contact for my clients in the area. That was my specialty, which was planning and buying advertising and working with the data to make sure we were getting maximum return on investment. Yes, I kind of that. So things were amazing. I thought that I was like set for life, like had the career, had the boyfriend that was probably going to be the guy that I married, family, all loved him, everything, awesome, awesome, awesome.

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So I went off to see a clairvoyant expecting that I'd find out, like when I was going to get proposed to that sort of thing. And off I go and she looks at me, you know, after kind of telling me some things that she that was so accurate, like your boyfriend's, from a country town, he has curly hair. I'm like what is this witchcraft? And then she said I know you think that you're happy and that your life's on a really good path, but actually you are in a very unhealthy relationship and in fact you are being unconsciously controlled in this relationship, unconsciously controlled in this relationship. And my first reaction was that is so, not true. But I'll never forget this. I kind of left there and went and sat in my car out the front and I just started crying because it was true, it was absolutely true.

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So what I'd been doing is being the version of me that he would most love, not being true to myself. And, yes, I was making my way successfully in my career but at a cost to my health overworking, overdoing people, pleasing all of that stuff. All of that stuff and in particular in my relationship. I was living this very introverted version of me, this yes, I will follow your rules. And he had some serious rules for me, things that I wasn't to do or he would break up with me. I was young but basically I was completely compromising myself to be loved and it took that moment of awakening for me to do the personal, internal kind of contemplation to realize that in fact wasn't self-expressed. I wasn't the true me. I was living this small life to please others and not pleasing myself in the process.

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It still took another year for me to actually leave the relationship because I so desperately wanted that all to be not true and to find a way where, through communication, we were able to heal that. And we did try and I had to open up and tell him everything and tried so hard to grow and heal through that. But at the end of the day I couldn't and I had to leave that relationship. That I couldn't and I had to leave that relationship and the human that I became in that process was so very different and did actually go on to greater and greater heights and making different decisions. Like I left my career for a couple of years and went traveling and explored things with a sense of freedom and adventure which is far more me and you would know this if you're in my world it's much more who I am today, so I hope this has helped you in some small way.

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I love to tell a bit of a story because we can all see ourselves in each other's stories and I trust that you've got something valuable from this episode. Jump into my Instagram DM anytime if you've got something valuable from this episode. Jump into my Instagram DM anytime if you've got questions, if you've got thoughts, if you're like damn girl, I saw myself in that one. If you're resisting Black Friday and I have made you see things differently, love to hear about that as well. In my world, black Friday is a happening thing.

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I've just been making offers right now to my current group coaching client programs. Stuff that up, didn't I? You heard what I had to say. I'm going to my current clients who are in my group programs with offers for private upgrades. Next step is to share some very rare, very rare and exclusive private coaching options with a list of 20 of you who have hand raised that you're interested in seeing these before I go public. So I am going to be sending out messages today to those of you on that list and then, pending how that goes, they may go public next week. But there'll also be some incredible ways to buy some of my products at never seen before prices or bundles. So stay tuned, keep your ear to the ground when it comes to what's coming through from me, because there is going to be some amazing opportunities to grow your understanding and experimentation with human design and how you market your business so you can attract clients with more ease.

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And thanks again for listening. I'll be back in your ears sometime real soon. Bye for now. Thanks for tuning in to the Human Design for Marketing podcast. Make sure you hit that subscribe button. Tell your friends and extra brownie points Go. Leave me a review. I would so appreciate it. There are heaps more resources in the show notes. I can't wait to be back in your ears again soon. Bye for now.